There are examples in the Bible of mourning of healthy mourning.
IN the OT. The end of Sam. Saw the death of Jonathon and Saul.
You would have thought that David who now with the removal of the house of King Saul in one battle would be the happiest man because the coast is clear.
Instead , spent a lot of time and effort in mourning.
Today ,for the death of a statesman , there is more thought about the cost of a state funeral with coaches and flowers and prepared speeches saying we have gathered here this morning to celebrate the life of so and so.. Before you celebrate and get on with life which a loss is approached today.. The example of the OT.is a fitting lament.
Allowing Mind and emotion to express grief.
2 Sam 1:17 ¶ David took up this lament concerning Saul and his son Jonathan,
18 and ordered that the men of Judah be taught this lament of the bow (it is written in the Book of Jashar):
Expression of shame
19 "Your glory, O Israel, lies slain on your heights. How the mighty have fallen!
20 "Tell it not in Gath, proclaim it not in the streets of Ashkelon, lest the daughters of the Philistines be glad, lest the daughters of the uncircumcised rejoice.
Expression of anger.
21 "O mountains of Gilboa, may you have neither dew nor rain, nor fields that yield offerings [of grain]. For there the shield of the mighty was defiled, the shield of Saul--no longer rubbed with oil.
22 From the blood of the slain, from the flesh of the mighty, the bow of Jonathan did not turn back, the sword of Saul did not return unsatisfied.
23 "Saul and Jonathan--in life they were loved and gracious, and in death they were not parted. They were swifter than eagles, they were stronger than lions.
Grief at the Loss.
24 "O daughters of Israel, weep for Saul, who clothed you in scarlet and finery, who adorned your garments with ornaments of gold.
25 "How the mighty have fallen in battle! Jonathan lies slain on your heights.
26 I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother; you were very dear to me. Your love for me was wonderful, more wonderful than that of women.
27 "How the mighty have fallen! The weapons of war have perished!"
Tne expression of personal grief over a loss.
It is structured sorrow
King james version of distress.
The example of Jesus.
(b) Mourning stimulated by the sin of the world.
Jesus set an example in this. He felt deeply people's hurts ,their sorrows and weaknesses in a fallen world.( Mk 1:40-42. Mk.3:1-5. Mk 10:13-16 Jn11:33-36. ).
Mk 1: 40 ¶ A man with leprosy came to him and begged him on his knees, "If you are willing, you can make me clean."
41 Filled with compassion, Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. "I am willing," he said. "Be clean!"
42 Immediately the leprosy left him and he was cured.
Anger and shame
Mk 3:1 ¶ Another time he went into the synagogue, and a man with a shrivelled hand was there. 2 Some of them were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath.
3 Jesus said to the man with the shrivelled hand, "Stand up in front of everyone."
4 Then Jesus asked them, "Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?" But they remained silent.
5 He looked round at them in anger and, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts, said to the man, "Stretch out your hand." He stretched it out, and his hand was completely restored.
Sense of grief and agony.
Mat 23:37 "O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing.
38 Look, your house is left to you desolate.
39 For I tell you, you will not see me again until you say, `Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.'"
Sense of personal Loss
Jn 11: 33 ¶ When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.
34 "Where have you laid him?" he asked. "Come and see, Lord," they replied.
35 Jesus wept.
Context of Beatitudes.(Lifestyle of The Kingdom of God.)
(a)Personal grief over personal sin in the face of the purity of God.
We must mourn
over our spiritual condition.
(1) Thoughtful grief- our sin is ugly ,dark and deceptive.
(2) Anger over the blaspheming of God’s name. Our own lack of courage to correct it even when given the opportunities.
(3) Shame- Eternity is there and every human being is rushing towards it –while we struggle to be urgent in our lives for The Lord.
(4) Agony that God’s revelation presents clear alternatives.-Life or death .forgiveness or condemnation. Heaven or Hell. Disobedience or obedience. Our commitment is halfway when it ought to be all the way..
(5) Sense of personal loss that while we desire to be and to do the things of God we do the opposite.
A good start is to mourn over this condition.
What happens when we do mourn. They shall be comforted.
The comfort that comes with Mourning.
7 ¶ But I tell you the truth: It is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Counsellor /Comforter will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you.
8 When he comes, he will convict the world of guilt in regard to sin and righteousness and judgment:
True comfort .Is to be filled with Strength to do God’s will God himself in the person of The Holy Spirit will strengthen and guide us by making alive the word of God.
When we truly mourn God Himself Will reassure the Christian, pour the love of God in their hearts. Allow a Christian to be singing from within when crushing circumstances prevail.